“And, just like that, all my anger uncoiled and slithered away.”

Today’s little gem comes from speaker, author, and CEO-advising type Peter Bregman, who asks the simple question, “Do you know what you are feeling?” What good, he asks, is all the therapy and yoga and navel-gazing activities that he and his wife have engaged in over the years? The answer is simple: now when somethingContinue reading ““And, just like that, all my anger uncoiled and slithered away.””

Principles of RSM #8: Touch is a viable system of communication.

Touch can communicate so much. When a baby, who cannot understand speech, is held and cuddled in calming arms, its system begins to slow down and match the calm rhythms of the caretaker. The touch of a lover can be electrifying. Touching a friend who is grieving can help them release some of the grief;Continue reading “Principles of RSM #8: Touch is a viable system of communication.”

The world of pain

Two articles on pain came into my inbox last week, both of which point to the intricacies of the body-mind connection. Live Science reports that chronic pain may be due in part to the brain creating and maintaining inaccurate maps of the body. Sort of awesome highlights: Researchers have known for some time that theContinue reading “The world of pain”

Peace like a river

From Maureena Bivins’ blog, today I learn of a study showing that emotions are primarily social occurrences: rather than being more internal, cognitive, individual responses, argues Brian Parkinson, they are “social phenomena” that are “interpersonally, institutionally, or culturally defined.” This may seem like a “well, duh” kind of finding, but I think it has importantContinue reading “Peace like a river”

Principles of RSM #7: The body’s energy field and life force exist and can be sensed.

Of all of the principles of Rubenfeld Synergy, this is the one I have the most trouble explaining. There are few subjects that set some of my friends off more than a discussion of “energy,” as it evokes a wifty, woo-woo concept that has no scientific basis. All of that being said, I have tooContinue reading “Principles of RSM #7: The body’s energy field and life force exist and can be sensed.”

The secret to happiness is right here

The magnificent Mark Morford, fabulous columnist for the SF Gate, offered up this fanstastic article about the power of gratitude, not just for the good things, but for everything. Some highlights: Be cynical if you want. Be jaded and sneery and think the world is a razor blade of anger and pain, just waiting toContinue reading “The secret to happiness is right here”

Make a move, change a thought

What little thing can you change about your life today? As someone who struggles with occasional dysthymia and fatigue, I think about this often. It’s all too easy to become trapped in habit, and forget that there is always choice. Sometimes it’s remarkable how doing something different can shake things up and cause change. WakingContinue reading “Make a move, change a thought”

Principles of RSM #6: Clients have the natural capacity for self-healing and self-regulation

At first blush, this principle appears to be simply an extension of principle #5: the ultimate responsibility for change rests with the client. And these two are indeed inextricably related: the next logical step from a client deciding they want healing is the understanding that while the Synergist can help, they ultimately have to doContinue reading “Principles of RSM #6: Clients have the natural capacity for self-healing and self-regulation”

The 18 Principles, and my newsletter

If you haven’t been reading long, you may not know about the series I’m writing on the 18 Principles of Rubenfeld Synergy. The start of the series is here, and the rest follow on from there. The original post has been updated with links to the first five, which I’ve written already; the remaining 13Continue reading “The 18 Principles, and my newsletter”

How love, trust and empathy can be contagious

This week, David Kanigan turned me on to an article in the Wall Street Journal called ‘The Trust Molecule,’ exploring Paul J. Zak’s research on oxytocin. For those of you who haven’t heard of oxytocin, it’s sometimes called the “cuddle chemical,” and it is released in our brains while having sex, giving birth, breastfeeding, andContinue reading “How love, trust and empathy can be contagious”