Principles of RSM #5: The ultimate responsibility for change rests with the client

This principle is perhaps more straightforward and easy to explain than some of the others, as it relies on an expression we’ve all heard: you can’t change someone who doesn’t want to change. Blogger Suzanne Ashkam recently posted this gem about nurturance, and the tendency of many of us to try and shape and moldContinue reading “Principles of RSM #5: The ultimate responsibility for change rests with the client”

“First, go for a swim”: When the mind-body connection doesn’t go far enough

A column in the Guardian late last week put words to something I’ve been considering for some time: if we are integrated creatures, can we go on thinking of our bodies as something separate from ourselves? Oliver Burkeman succinctly unpacks the problem of how modern humans tend to regard their own senses of self: manyContinue reading ““First, go for a swim”: When the mind-body connection doesn’t go far enough”

So what if I am being defensive?

One of the favorite refuges of arguers and old-school psychotherapists everywhere is to invoke the old Freudian saw, “Why are you being so defensive?” Now while it’s true that sometimes, people are being defensive, this line of argument tends to be almost completely useless – unless your goal is to escalate the argument. Telling someoneContinue reading “So what if I am being defensive?”

Principles of RSM #4: Change occurs in the present moment

During one module of my training, Ilana Rubenfeld visited us and taught for part of the week. She told stories, ran exercises, and most importantly, did demos. Watching Ilana work is a bit like magic at times; she makes the method she created look like wizardry as she delves deep into a client’s experience withContinue reading “Principles of RSM #4: Change occurs in the present moment”

Toward a new theory of depression

Yesterdays’ New York Times Magazine contains a long article by Siddhartha Mukherjee detailing the history of the serotonin theory of depression, and a newly emerging theory about neuron generation. The whole thing is very much worth the read, and opens a number of fascinating questions and possibilities about what it is that causes what writerContinue reading “Toward a new theory of depression”

Hack Yourself

Sorting through some old emails yesterday, I found a link that a friend sent to me long ago, that I probably wasn’t ready for around then. Yesterday I clicked that link and, to my delight, it was still there. Or rather, its author – horror and fantasy writer Michael Montoure – had pulled it fromContinue reading “Hack Yourself”

Principles of RSM #3: Awareness is the first key to change

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” -Socrates This principle is one of my favorites, and in fact I sometimes think it should be the first principle of Rubenfeld Synergy. All of the principles, I think, are equally important, but this one just has so much juice in it. Why? Because all the bodywork andContinue reading “Principles of RSM #3: Awareness is the first key to change”

How music brings people back to life

My colleague Aita Passmore alerted me to this beautiful video, which shows a nearly completely unresponsive old man in a nursing home coming back to himself when he hears music that he loved as a younger man. Watch through for his crooning rendition of “I’ll Be Home for Christmas.” Ilana Rubenfeld, the founder of ourContinue reading “How music brings people back to life”

Smiling has even more power than I thought

I found this TED talk about smile research on Santita Farella’s blog; thanks for the heads-up! I thought I knew a lot about smile research after reading Malcolm Gladwell’s fabulous book Blink, but this video offers much more. Most of us know that when you smile, it actually makes you feel happier – not justContinue reading “Smiling has even more power than I thought”

Principles of RSM #2: The body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated.

As the years go on, scientific research continues to mount showing the truth of this simple principle: the body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated. What we feed our bodies, how well we sleep and how often we exercise all have profound affects on common mental disorders like depression and anxiety. Feelings of loveContinue reading “Principles of RSM #2: The body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated.”