Contact Improv: a study in touch and consent

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to go to a contact improv lesson and jam, something I haven’t done in years. For the uninitiated, contact improvisation is a style of dance characterized by the words in its name: the dance is unchoreographed and improvisational, and the dancer strives to stay in contact with one or moreContinue reading “Contact Improv: a study in touch and consent”

Embodied Consent returns to Bound in Boston

I am pleased to announce that on Saturday, March 19, I will once again be teaching my class on Embodied Consent, this time at the much larger Bound in Boston convention in Norwood, MA! I’m excited to be doing this again, not least because I was specially asked to, which feels amazing. Secondly, though, I’mContinue reading “Embodied Consent returns to Bound in Boston”

Tools for making my workshops more powerful: a critical review of my own Embodied Consent Workshop last month

  Last month, I gave a workshop on Embodied Consent, which I talked about a lot in this space. It went relatively well, but I had some criticism for myself, and I’m looking forward to doing it – and other workshops – again with this greater knowledge. So what didn’t I like? I thought IContinue reading “Tools for making my workshops more powerful: a critical review of my own Embodied Consent Workshop last month”

So what is “embodied consent,” anyway?

For the past few weeks, I have been posting about different aspects of the workshop I will be giving this weekend at the Bound in Boston: Wicked Women conference, which is called “Embodied Consent: Finding Your Yes, No, and Maybe.” But what is it, exactly, that I mean by “embodied consent”? It’s an interesting question,Continue reading “So what is “embodied consent,” anyway?”

Embodied Consent: Where is your “yes”?

(Part 3 of my series on Embodied Consent, leading up to my talk on the subject at the Bound in Boston: Wicked Women Conference next weekend.) One of my favorite truisms about consent is that a true “yes” is not possible without the option for a true “no.” That being said, one of my primaryContinue reading “Embodied Consent: Where is your “yes”?”

Embodied Consent: Where is your ‘no’?

(Part 2 of my series leading up to my talk on Embodied Consent, happening October 11 at the Bound in Boston: Wicked Women conference.) So I’ve talked in this space about how hard it can be to say no. But what about to¬†feel no? In my work, Rubenfeld Synergy Method, we always come back toContinue reading “Embodied Consent: Where is your ‘no’?”

Finding your yes, no, and maybe, part 1: No

In anticipation of the talk I’m giving the weekend of October 10 at Wicked Women, I want to write some posts that lay groundwork for the concepts I’ll be working with in that talk. The first of these is the very simple idea that saying no is hard. In last year’s talk, Sam and IContinue reading “Finding your yes, no, and maybe, part 1: No”