“First, go for a swim”: When the mind-body connection doesn’t go far enough

A column in the Guardian late last week put words to something I’ve been considering for some time: if we are integrated creatures, can we go on thinking of our bodies as something separate from ourselves? Oliver Burkeman succinctly unpacks the problem of how modern humans tend to regard their own senses of self: manyContinue reading ““First, go for a swim”: When the mind-body connection doesn’t go far enough”

So what if I am being defensive?

One of the favorite refuges of arguers and old-school psychotherapists everywhere is to invoke the old Freudian saw, “Why are you being so defensive?” Now while it’s true that sometimes, people are being defensive, this line of argument tends to be almost completely useless – unless your goal is to escalate the argument. Telling someoneContinue reading “So what if I am being defensive?”

Principles of RSM #4: Change occurs in the present moment

During one module of my training, Ilana Rubenfeld visited us and taught for part of the week. She told stories, ran exercises, and most importantly, did demos. Watching Ilana work is a bit like magic at times; she makes the method she created look like wizardry as she delves deep into a client’s experience withContinue reading “Principles of RSM #4: Change occurs in the present moment”

Hack Yourself

Sorting through some old emails yesterday, I found a link that a friend sent to me long ago, that I probably wasn’t ready for around then. Yesterday I clicked that link and, to my delight, it was still there. Or rather, its author – horror and fantasy writer Michael Montoure – had pulled it fromContinue reading “Hack Yourself”

Principles of RSM #3: Awareness is the first key to change

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” -Socrates This principle is one of my favorites, and in fact I sometimes think it should be the first principle of Rubenfeld Synergy. All of the principles, I think, are equally important, but this one just has so much juice in it. Why? Because all the bodywork andContinue reading “Principles of RSM #3: Awareness is the first key to change”

Principles of RSM #2: The body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated.

As the years go on, scientific research continues to mount showing the truth of this simple principle: the body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated. What we feed our bodies, how well we sleep and how often we exercise all have profound affects on common mental disorders like depression and anxiety. Feelings of loveContinue reading “Principles of RSM #2: The body, mind, emotions and spirit are dynamically interrelated.”

The “spirit” part of Rubenfeld Synergy

“Absolutely unmixed attention is prayer.” ~ Simone Weil I picked up this quotation from David Kanigan’s blog, and have been mulling it over ever since. Rubenfeld Synergy Method’s official, trademarked tagline is, “A dynamic system for the integration of body, mind, emotions and spirit.” Our teachers told us, however, that until our particular training, theContinue reading “The “spirit” part of Rubenfeld Synergy”

Principles of RSM: 1. Each individual is unique.

Like so many other things in Rubenfeld Synergy, this principle appears simple, almost simplistic, at first blush. It may even appear as sentimental pap: a touchy-feely, New-Age-y belief that we are all special snowflakes. In reality, though, it harkens back to the idea of specificity and keeping an open attitude of discovery. Human beings, afterContinue reading “Principles of RSM: 1. Each individual is unique.”

The principles of Rubenfeld Synergy – an introduction

Rubenfeld Synergy Method operates from a platform of 18 principles, each of which constitutes a kind of belief or intention with which we go into a session with a client. The full list is here at Janet Cook’s blog, but I find myself wanting to expand on each principle in a series of posts. ForContinue reading “The principles of Rubenfeld Synergy – an introduction”

Moving from habit to choice

Today I came across this very simple and straightforward blog post from Kristen Barton Cuthriell about behaviors and consequences. The post is full of sound advice about what happens when you make particular choices, and how thinking through the consequences can help you make the right ones. A few examples: When you choose to stayContinue reading “Moving from habit to choice”