Embodied Consent: Where is your ‘no’?

(Part 2 of my series leading up to my talk on Embodied Consent, happening October 11 at the Bound in Boston: Wicked Women conference.) So I’ve talked in this space about how hard it can be to say no. But what about to feel no? In my work, Rubenfeld Synergy Method, we always come back toContinue reading “Embodied Consent: Where is your ‘no’?”

Working with love

Given that I work with individuals most of the time and my work tends to involve a massage table and touch, it’s probably hard to imagine how I work with couples or groups. But given that I also sometimes work with sexuality, I do sometimes have the occasion to work with couples who need helpContinue reading “Working with love”

Rewiring your brain out of pain

When I was about 17 years old, I remember getting sunburned on my face. I particularly hurt on the skin around and under my eyes, but being out with family at the pool in the complex where my grandmother lived, I needed to hang out for a bit longer. I was reading a book –Continue reading “Rewiring your brain out of pain”

Some basic stuff you should know.

In the past little while, I’ve been tweaking and rearranging some of the content on this site, and ultimately, i hope to host my entire site here at WordPress, with the blog integrated in. For now, here are some of the new things you might take a look at! Top Bar I’ve revised my “MakeContinue reading “Some basic stuff you should know.”

Blog Year’s Eve – My Top 15

  Tomorrow is the 1st anniversary of the start of this blog.  When I began, I wanted a place to talk about this amazing work, to explain some of its principles, and tell client stories.  What it’s become is far more comprehensive, and, as might have been predicted, more holistic.  I’ve enjoyed talking about theContinue reading “Blog Year’s Eve – My Top 15”

[Re-run] How do we do listening touch with someone who can’t hear?

Last night, I had the pleasure and challenge of working with a client, Sue*, who is completely deaf.  I will admit, first off, that I don’t have a lot of experience with deaf people; while I’ve long been fascinated by sign language, I haven’t happened to have many interactions with people who are deaf.  SomeContinue reading “[Re-run] How do we do listening touch with someone who can’t hear?”

How do we do listening touch with someone who can’t hear?

Last night, I had the pleasure and challenge of working with a client, Sue*, who is completely deaf.  I will admit, first off, that I don’t have a lot of experience with deaf people; while I’ve long been fascinated by sign language, I haven’t happened to have many interactions with people who are deaf.  SomeContinue reading “How do we do listening touch with someone who can’t hear?”

[Rerun] The principles of Rubenfeld Synergy – an introduction

I’m rerunning this post partly because I’m aware I have some new readers, and I want to make sure they get exposed to my 18 Principles series, of which I’m rather proud and which forms the foundation of Rubenfeld Synergy work.  Please check out this intro post, which links to all of the principles.  Thanks!Continue reading “[Rerun] The principles of Rubenfeld Synergy – an introduction”

New series ideas

As reported last week, I’ve finished my series on the 18 Principles of Rubenfeld Synergy Method.  About which I’m pretty psyched.  So I’m taking this Wednesday to put forth a couple of ideas on what the next series might be.  If you have opinions or thoughts as to what you’d like to hear about, pleaseContinue reading “New series ideas”

Principles of RSM #18: Self-care is the first step to client care

This is it, folks: the last in the series of 18 Principles of Rubenfeld Synergy Method!  It took a little more than 18 weeks to do it, but this is it! There’s plenty more to write about RSM, but if you have anything you’d really like to hear about, please, let me know by commentingContinue reading “Principles of RSM #18: Self-care is the first step to client care”