“Watch quietly and observe.”

Inspiration from an unlikely place this morning: a teenager who decided that enough was enough, and developed a line of bras for young developing girls that are not hypersexualized and inappropriate. I was touched both by this girl’s passion and drive, and by the messages embedded in the marketing. Yellowberry espouses six ‘mantras’ that are printedContinue reading ““Watch quietly and observe.””

It’s spring. Sex for everyone! (Except people who don’t want it!)

Hello, lovely readers! Yesterday was the first day of spring.  And with spring in the air, folks’ thoughts tend to turn to friskiness. As a person who helps those who are struggling with body, sexuality and gender issues, one of the things that is clear is that there are not nearly enough images in theContinue reading “It’s spring. Sex for everyone! (Except people who don’t want it!)”

Heroic helplessness

Image courtesy of Mme Scherzo I was taken with David Kanigan’s post the other day, quoting Florida Scott-Maxwell on aging, and including this beautiful photograph of I-know-not-whom, but surely one of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen of any age. I include the entirely of the quotation he included here, because it is worthwhile:Continue reading “Heroic helplessness”

Working with Sexuality: Decoupling touch and sex

In a previous post, I mentioned how often, especially for men, touch can be linked up in their bodies with sex.  In our current society, unfortunately, we have a disordered relationship to touch.  When we are tiny children, if we are lucky, our parents and other caregivers touch us all the time.  We are carried,Continue reading “Working with Sexuality: Decoupling touch and sex”

“Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body.”

From David Kanigan, great collector of the gorgeous, comes this photo and poem this morning.  I share without further comment. Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body. Sometimes the way in is a song. But there are three ways in the world: dangerous, wounding and beauty. To enter stone, be water. ToContinue reading ““Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body.””

Working with Sexuality: Arousal in session

There are a number of issues that come about when working with clients around sexuality, and there are a few that are especially relevant to Rubenfeld Synergy, as it involves touch.  The most obvious of these is a client becoming sexually aroused during a session. During the second year of my training, I began toContinue reading “Working with Sexuality: Arousal in session”

[Rerun] When will it be safe to be a girl?

This week I stumbled across two posts about gender that really resonated with me.  Gender is a tangled and complex subject, and there are people who can speak far more eloquently about trans issues, the intersection of gender and sexuality, and breaking the gender mold than I can.  But I wanted to highlight these twoContinue reading “[Rerun] When will it be safe to be a girl?”

The fitness industry’s war against your body

I have long been suspicious of the fitness industry, and in particular the more recent, particularly self-punishing styles of workout that have become so popular.  For my own part, I believe in eating whole foods, indulging from time to time, and being as active as you can in a way that doesn’t cause injury.  I’veContinue reading “The fitness industry’s war against your body”

A blessing for your body

One of my brilliant teachers and the current president of the International Association of Rubenfeld Synergists (INARS), Theresa Pettersen-Chu, posted this blessing yesterday on the Rubenfeld Synergy Method Facebook page. I was pleased enough with it to want to share it here. I hope you enjoy, and take it to heart – and to allContinue reading “A blessing for your body”

Brief, but important.

A question I mean to put in my upcoming marketing materials, which the fabulous Julie Connor helped me crystallize the other day: People who are exploring questions of gender, sexuality, or relationship styles…How would it feel to live comfortably, securely and proudly in your body for who you are? I think that pretty much saysContinue reading “Brief, but important.”