“Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body.”

From David Kanigan, great collector of the gorgeous, comes this photo and poem this morning.  I share without further comment. Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body. Sometimes the way in is a song. But there are three ways in the world: dangerous, wounding and beauty. To enter stone, be water. ToContinue reading ““Sometimes the way to milk and honey is through the body.””

People into BDSM no longer considered mentally ill. Well it’s about time.

As reported by The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, the makers of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, commonly known as the DSM, has released its new edition (DSM-5).  In previous editions, paraphilias – a catch-all term for “unusual” sexual desires falling under the umbrella of fetishes, BDSM, or kink – were basically consideredContinue reading “People into BDSM no longer considered mentally ill. Well it’s about time.”

The stories we tell ourselves

A few days ago, I came across a fantastic post about narrative, and how easy it is, given that we’re narrative creatures with storytelling in our DNA, to tell the same stories over and over about things, even when they aren’t true. The title of the post is “‘We Have Always Fought’: Challenging the ‘Women,Continue reading “The stories we tell ourselves”

Childhood, consent, and learning to be human

What imprints do we receive as children?  When you were five, or six, or seven, what messages really stuck and taught you how people ought to treat each other, how you deserved to be treated, and what options you had for interaction with others? I know for my part, I was teased a lot asContinue reading “Childhood, consent, and learning to be human”

Moving from habit to choice, part 2: true is not the same as right

A long while back, I made a post about akrasia: our tendency to do things we know are bad for us in spite of ourselves.  Recently, I’ve been trying to make a fairly major dietary change in myself, based on a bunch of research and things I’ve observed to be healthier for my overall stateContinue reading “Moving from habit to choice, part 2: true is not the same as right”

The Classic Sequence: The Head Roll

Getting back to this series, after this weird couple of weeks made it difficult to write about normal things.  Now, though, to continue with the progression of moves in the so-called “classic sequence” of a Rubenfeld Synergy session. After the first touch at the head, the Synergist will often attempt a head roll.  The pointContinue reading “The Classic Sequence: The Head Roll”

“We are not built for this.”

Once again, in the face of unthinkable tragedy – this time much closer to home than any of us here in Boston would like – Mark Morford says the thing I need to hear, and that I wanted to say myself. I’ve asked here before how we humans are meant to deal with the tragediesContinue reading ““We are not built for this.””

Out of my comfort zone

Last week was something of a process of getting out of my comfort zone and doing things I’d long wanted to, but never quite had the nerve.  In particular, I applied for a theatrical directing slot at a local respected theatre company, proposing a couple of really classic shows. I write a bit about theContinue reading “Out of my comfort zone”

GROUND series will return next week

Hi everyone.  I’ve been doing NaNoWriMo this month, and it’s taking a lot out of me, creatively speaking.  For those of you who don’t know what that is, it’s short for National Novel Writing Month, which is every year in November.  During that month, the challenge is to write 50,000 words – a novel-length work. Continue reading “GROUND series will return next week”

Gender essentialism: how useful is it in therapy?

I’ve been doing some relationship work lately with a talented therapist.  While she doesn’t necessarily get everything that we’re laying down, to use a very old phrase, she does do an amazing job of observing and calling out the ways we communicate (or don’t), and helping us zero in on what the problems actually are.Continue reading “Gender essentialism: how useful is it in therapy?”