The things that shift me

From a coffee shop in Somerville, I text to a loved one, “Grey and white clouds blowing in a fall breeze, good French roast, and Death Cab on the speakers.  Good day so far.” On Friday afternoon, in the depths of a never-ending rainstorm, I wrote in a more personal journal what a hard dayContinue reading “The things that shift me”

Am I awake right now?

I have Google set up to send me articles about body/mind topics, and sometimes links come along that I never would have found on my own.  Like this little gem from the Times of Swaziland (Swaziland!). It’s a fairly simple article on mindfulness, but I found its messages to be particularly poetic and true.  SomeContinue reading “Am I awake right now?”

Principles of RSM #15: Confusion facilitates change

Nobody likes being confused.  It’s disorienting, frustrating, and sometimes frightening.  We also know that it’s hard to take in new information or function effectively when we’re confused: most people are familiar with the experience of trying to tell someone one thing while looking at different words on a screen, or trying to drive somewhere newContinue reading “Principles of RSM #15: Confusion facilitates change”

[Re-run] Moving from habit to choice

Today I came across this very simple and straightforward blog post from Kristen Barton Cuthriell about behaviors and consequences. The post is full of sound advice about what happens when you make particular choices, and how thinking through the consequences can help you make the right ones. A few examples: When you choose to stayContinue reading “[Re-run] Moving from habit to choice”

Rock climbing for mind, body, emotions and spirit

Yesterday, I went rock climbing at Metro Rock in Everett for the fourth time.  I had heard many wax poetic about the wonders of this sport, not least Norman Mailer in Harlot’s Ghost, and the writer whom I’d love to have as a closer friend, Kij Johnson, who seems to have had her life savedContinue reading “Rock climbing for mind, body, emotions and spirit”

Principles of RSM #9: The body is a metaphor

In Rubenfeld Synergy Method, we like to say that the story of our bodies is the story of our lives.  Like most storytellers, the body uses metaphors to tell that story.  The way we language our experiences, the expressions we use in everyday life, bear this out.  Our feet tell the story of our senseContinue reading “Principles of RSM #9: The body is a metaphor”

“And, just like that, all my anger uncoiled and slithered away.”

Today’s little gem comes from speaker, author, and CEO-advising type Peter Bregman, who asks the simple question, “Do you know what you are feeling?” What good, he asks, is all the therapy and yoga and navel-gazing activities that he and his wife have engaged in over the years? The answer is simple: now when somethingContinue reading ““And, just like that, all my anger uncoiled and slithered away.””

Peace like a river

From Maureena Bivins’ blog, today I learn of a study showing that emotions are primarily social occurrences: rather than being more internal, cognitive, individual responses, argues Brian Parkinson, they are “social phenomena” that are “interpersonally, institutionally, or culturally defined.” This may seem like a “well, duh” kind of finding, but I think it has importantContinue reading “Peace like a river”

Make a move, change a thought

What little thing can you change about your life today? As someone who struggles with occasional dysthymia and fatigue, I think about this often. It’s all too easy to become trapped in habit, and forget that there is always choice. Sometimes it’s remarkable how doing something different can shake things up and cause change. WakingContinue reading “Make a move, change a thought”

Principles of RSM #6: Clients have the natural capacity for self-healing and self-regulation

At first blush, this principle appears to be simply an extension of principle #5: the ultimate responsibility for change rests with the client. And these two are indeed inextricably related: the next logical step from a client deciding they want healing is the understanding that while the Synergist can help, they ultimately have to doContinue reading “Principles of RSM #6: Clients have the natural capacity for self-healing and self-regulation”