Gardening, or, Doing What Makes You Happy

Yesterday, I spent a few hours out on the patio around the old, drained pool that accompanies my house.  Slowly, and in as cost-effective a way as possible (read: free), we’re filling the pool to make it into a garden bed.  Until then, though, we’re managing a bunch of containers, and yesterday was the firstContinue reading “Gardening, or, Doing What Makes You Happy”

Spring returning

The temperature is rising, it’s nearly April, and I’ve been seeing tulips everywhere.  I feel the sap rising in me, as well, and it feels possible that this long, hard winter is truly at an end. I’ll be returning to more regular writing.  In particular, next week I’d like to introduce a series on theContinue reading “Spring returning”

Understanding: getting literal with it

Happy almost-Thanksgiving, everyone here in the States!  As we ease into the holidays, I want to return to the GROUND series, especially since we all need a bit of extra grounding during this time.  Today, then, we bring it to U.  🙂 The ‘U’ in GROUND is for ‘Understanding,’ something that all therapists strive forContinue reading “Understanding: getting literal with it”

Openness: the dance of receiving and relating

Not long ago, Joe and Noël did a workshop at one of the INARS conferences with a bunch of Synergists.  Joe asked them what they felt was the most important thing they could bring to their clients, or some such question, and he was surprised that many people said, “I need to be completely open.” Continue reading “Openness: the dance of receiving and relating”

Respect: honoring where you end and I begin

Part of a series on the GROUND of RSM – a foundational acronym introduced by Joe Weldon and Noël Wight at the 17th Rubenfeld Synergy Training. The second piece of our GROUND, after Gentleness, is Respect, which probably sounds pretty basic.  Again, though, these concepts are foundational: both literally and figuratively, they are the groundContinue reading “Respect: honoring where you end and I begin”

Gentleness: the first word in our work

Part of a series on the GROUND of RSM – a foundational acronym introduced by Joe Weldon and Noël Wight at the 17th Rubenfeld Synergy Training. Gentleness may have been the first thing I noticed about Joe Weldon, the co-head of my training.  I may have noticed his size at about the same time: thoughContinue reading “Gentleness: the first word in our work”

Principles of RSM: 1. Each individual is unique.

Like so many other things in Rubenfeld Synergy, this principle appears simple, almost simplistic, at first blush. It may even appear as sentimental pap: a touchy-feely, New-Age-y belief that we are all special snowflakes. In reality, though, it harkens back to the idea of specificity and keeping an open attitude of discovery. Human beings, afterContinue reading “Principles of RSM: 1. Each individual is unique.”