I’ve talked in this space about moving from habit to choice, and how Rubenfeld Synergy and other mindfulness work helps to stop ourselves before we engage in an old habit, and have the option to do something else. But if we are, as the man said, what we repeatedly do, then habits are what most profoundlyContinue reading “New Year’s Evolutions”
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Halloween, Permission, and Being Something Else
Halloween was always a thrilling time for me, both as a child and as an adult. It’s not that I was that into being scared; scary things were actually way too intense for me when I was little. And candy was nice, but given the weird scares of the 1980s, I wasn’t allowed to eatContinue reading “Halloween, Permission, and Being Something Else”
What was taken from you? Where do we get it back?
This weekend, we focused on soul: what feeds us, where we feel at home, how we connect to passion, to center, to power, to connection itself. As part of that, we talked about the thwarts to passion: what does your passion call you to do, and what gets our way?
An important learning from this was that most of the time, the thing thwarting us is not of us. We may have internalized it, sure, but it was something done to us. “Something taken out of my soul. Something I would never lose. Something somebody stole.” Or, something somebody put there, something that doesn’t belong, that we should never have been forced to carry.
Gardening, or, Doing What Makes You Happy
Yesterday, I spent a few hours out on the patio around the old, drained pool that accompanies my house. Slowly, and in as cost-effective a way as possible (read: free), we’re filling the pool to make it into a garden bed. Until then, though, we’re managing a bunch of containers, and yesterday was the firstContinue reading “Gardening, or, Doing What Makes You Happy”
Days of imperfection
Days like this. I wake up later than I meant to, having drunk more wine than I meant to last night. I’m about to start an antibiotic that requires I don’t drink at all: some silly part of me wants to “enjoy myself” before the fast; some dark part of me wants to make myselfContinue reading “Days of imperfection”
Principles of RSM #15: Confusion facilitates change
Nobody likes being confused. It’s disorienting, frustrating, and sometimes frightening. We also know that it’s hard to take in new information or function effectively when we’re confused: most people are familiar with the experience of trying to tell someone one thing while looking at different words on a screen, or trying to drive somewhere newContinue reading “Principles of RSM #15: Confusion facilitates change”