Two days ago, when I heard of the mass shooting in Orlando that has since then been an unavoidable theme in every waking moment of my life, my first response was that shot to the heart, punch in the chest sensation that then slowly seeps down into my stomach. The horror, dread, rage and sadnessContinue reading ““Exhaustion is the body working to find comfort in a discomforting world.””
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“So sometimes I need to be reminded that my body is mine.”
Today’s post comes from Return the Gayze, a blog I was alerted to by a Facebook post linked to me by a friend in a private message…you know how it goes. However I stumbled across it, I needed to share it with you. The post is about massage, about pain, about buried trauma, about whatContinue reading ““So sometimes I need to be reminded that my body is mine.””
Facing (bodying) the fragility of life
It is hard to know what to do in the face of such shocking news. I found myself struck by a strange and nonspecific sadness, the strange regret – guilt? – that I never got to know him well, that now I never will. I’ve been near tears several times today, but never all the way to breaking. Some part of me seems to say, What right do you have?
Trying to manage pain? F*** it!
Research shows that swearing helps us to manage pain better. We’ve all had the experience of dropping something on our foot and yelling out a few choice Anglo-Saxon words. Scientists used to believe that doing so focused us more on the negative, and therefore decreased tolerance of pain. New research, however, shows that on theContinue reading “Trying to manage pain? F*** it!”
Rewiring your brain out of pain
When I was about 17 years old, I remember getting sunburned on my face. I particularly hurt on the skin around and under my eyes, but being out with family at the pool in the complex where my grandmother lived, I needed to hang out for a bit longer. I was reading a book –Continue reading “Rewiring your brain out of pain”
“Though that mark will never fully heal…as you grow, the scar gets smaller in proportion.”
This is a beautiful video by the great Ze Frank (yes, of “True Facts” fame), and young dancer Harry Shum, Jr. Using light, movement, paint, music, and voiceover, this video fully embodies what it is to be “painfully shy,” and what it is to come out of that shell at last. If you, right now,Continue reading ““Though that mark will never fully heal…as you grow, the scar gets smaller in proportion.””
Pain and pleasure as emotions
On a recent edition of Science Friday, I encountered an interview with neuroscientist Francis McGlone, whose research into touch-sensitive nerves has changed the landscape for how science understands touch in humans. It was already known that there are what might be called fast nerves and slow nerves. The first carry sensation to the brain inContinue reading “Pain and pleasure as emotions”
My favorite response yet to the #yesallwomen thing.
In the wake of the horrific shootings this week, Twitter and other social media have been a-flurry with defensive remarks from men (hashtag: notallmen) and responses from women (hashtag: yesallwomen). The dialogue seems to be going past each other, in a way that neither increases understanding nor gets at the heart of why these awfulContinue reading “My favorite response yet to the #yesallwomen thing.”
Working with Sexuality: Decoupling touch and sex
In a previous post, I mentioned how often, especially for men, touch can be linked up in their bodies with sex. In our current society, unfortunately, we have a disordered relationship to touch. When we are tiny children, if we are lucky, our parents and other caregivers touch us all the time. We are carried,Continue reading “Working with Sexuality: Decoupling touch and sex”
Working with Sexuality: Arousal in session
There are a number of issues that come about when working with clients around sexuality, and there are a few that are especially relevant to Rubenfeld Synergy, as it involves touch. The most obvious of these is a client becoming sexually aroused during a session. During the second year of my training, I began toContinue reading “Working with Sexuality: Arousal in session”