Sickness and self-care

This past Wednesday night, as I arrived at my rehearsal for the musical I’m in, I was struck with a headache bad enough to make me also feel nauseous.  Accompanying this delightful development were some hot flashes, dizziness, and weakness.  I struggled through the rehearsal, then went home and collapsed.  I slept through most ofContinue reading “Sickness and self-care”

Just what does a Rubenfeld Synergy session look like, anyway? – Part 1

(Part 2 is here.) The more I talk to people, and the more I write on this topic, the more I find that people tend to have trouble wrapping their minds around what Rubenfeld Synergy is, and what kind of experience they will have if they come and see me.  Offering six 25-minute sample sessionsContinue reading “Just what does a Rubenfeld Synergy session look like, anyway? – Part 1”

The power of touch

Yesterday, I got to spend three hours seeing back-to-back Rubenfeld Synergy clients at the Weekend of Healing and Insight, a fundraising event for the Theosophical Society of Boston.  I saw six people, for 25 minutes each, with barely a break in-between. This was more awesome than I imagined it would be. Synergy sessions are generallyContinue reading “The power of touch”

Principles of RSM #12: Pleasure needs to be supported to balance pain

This week’s principle is probably one of the easiest to understand.   Oftentimes, whether in therapy, medicine, or bodywork, we have the tendency to focus on the negative.  The reasons are obvious: we’re at the doctor or the massage therapist or the psychologist to get relief from what’s troubling us.  Sure, we get checkups atContinue reading “Principles of RSM #12: Pleasure needs to be supported to balance pain”

[Rerun] So what if I am being defensive?

One of the favorite refuges of arguers and old-school psychotherapists everywhere is to invoke the old Freudian saw, “Why are you being so defensive?” Now while it’s true that sometimes, people are being defensive, this line of argument tends to be almost completely useless – unless your goal is to escalate the argument. Telling someoneContinue reading “[Rerun] So what if I am being defensive?”

Rock climbing for mind, body, emotions and spirit

Yesterday, I went rock climbing at Metro Rock in Everett for the fourth time.  I had heard many wax poetic about the wonders of this sport, not least Norman Mailer in Harlot’s Ghost, and the writer whom I’d love to have as a closer friend, Kij Johnson, who seems to have had her life savedContinue reading “Rock climbing for mind, body, emotions and spirit”

Principles of RSM #10: The body tells the truth

One of the chief signs of an integrated person is that their body, mind, emotions and spirit are in agreement.  This is hardly something that can happen all the time, but as we work on ourselves, we hopefully find that we are aligned in our actions, the majority of the time.  But most of usContinue reading “Principles of RSM #10: The body tells the truth”

Principles of RSM #9: The body is a metaphor

In Rubenfeld Synergy Method, we like to say that the story of our bodies is the story of our lives.  Like most storytellers, the body uses metaphors to tell that story.  The way we language our experiences, the expressions we use in everyday life, bear this out.  Our feet tell the story of our senseContinue reading “Principles of RSM #9: The body is a metaphor”

Today in “well, duh”

A new study looked at how people make financial decisions, and found that people tended to reject offers that their guts told them were unfair, even if they stood to benefit from them. “‘Humans are highly attuned to unfairness and we are sometimes required to weigh up the demands of maintaining justice with preserving ourContinue reading “Today in “well, duh””

Principles of RSM #8: Touch is a viable system of communication.

Touch can communicate so much. When a baby, who cannot understand speech, is held and cuddled in calming arms, its system begins to slow down and match the calm rhythms of the caretaker. The touch of a lover can be electrifying. Touching a friend who is grieving can help them release some of the grief;Continue reading “Principles of RSM #8: Touch is a viable system of communication.”