I’m going out of town at the end of this week, and I’m not going to be super-available by email or phone between July 25 and August 8. I’m thrilled to report that I will be traveling in Europe, for the first time in 20 years, and most of the places I will visit willContinue reading “Wednesday Sway: Taking flight”
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What was taken from you? Where do we get it back?
This weekend, we focused on soul: what feeds us, where we feel at home, how we connect to passion, to center, to power, to connection itself. As part of that, we talked about the thwarts to passion: what does your passion call you to do, and what gets our way?
An important learning from this was that most of the time, the thing thwarting us is not of us. We may have internalized it, sure, but it was something done to us. “Something taken out of my soul. Something I would never lose. Something somebody stole.” Or, something somebody put there, something that doesn’t belong, that we should never have been forced to carry.
Hugs, but only if you want them.
More and more articles lately on consent culture and how to raise a generation of people who are secure in their own bodily autonomy, and respect others’ as well. Here’s one I liked this week: Why I Will Never Tell My Daughter to Give You a Hug. In short: forcing kids to hug and kiss orContinue reading “Hugs, but only if you want them.”
Childhood, consent, and learning to be human
In anticipation of my talk on embodied consent in September, I’m going to writing a lot about consent in this space. I’m away until August 10, so for the next two entires, you’ll be getting reruns. Here’s an oldy but goody that practically went viral when I first posted it. What imprints do we receiveContinue reading “Childhood, consent, and learning to be human”
The lies we tell girls about sex
This fabulous list/article about the lies girls grow up believing about sex, consent, virginity and agency is frightening and instructive. The scary thing is, I think it was actually better when I was growing up, as bad as it was.
[Rerun] When will it be safe to be a girl?
This week I stumbled across two posts about gender that really resonated with me. Gender is a tangled and complex subject, and there are people who can speak far more eloquently about trans issues, the intersection of gender and sexuality, and breaking the gender mold than I can. But I wanted to highlight these twoContinue reading “[Rerun] When will it be safe to be a girl?”
Childhood, consent, and learning to be human
What imprints do we receive as children? When you were five, or six, or seven, what messages really stuck and taught you how people ought to treat each other, how you deserved to be treated, and what options you had for interaction with others? I know for my part, I was teased a lot asContinue reading “Childhood, consent, and learning to be human”
[Re-run] When will it be safe to be a girl?
This week I stumbled across two posts about gender that really resonated with me. Gender is a tangled and complex subject, and there are people who can speak far more eloquently about trans issues, the intersection of gender and sexuality, and breaking the gender mold than I can. But I wanted to highlight these twoContinue reading “[Re-run] When will it be safe to be a girl?”
Holiday ephemera
It’s Christmas Eve, and I thought I’d share a few of the things that make this time of year work for me. True, these days I’m a practicing Pagan and celebrate Yule, which I did the other night with flame and food and reading and watching most of the night through for the sunrise. ButContinue reading “Holiday ephemera”
When will it be safe to be a girl?
This week I stumbled across two posts about gender that really resonated with me. Gender is a tangled and complex subject, and there are people who can speak far more eloquently about trans issues, the intersection of gender and sexuality, and breaking the gender mold than I can. But I wanted to highlight these twoContinue reading “When will it be safe to be a girl?”
Power In Your Hands 